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| Tweet Topic Started: Jan 15 2013, 12:41 PM (6,501 Views) | |
| GothicCarsUrban | Jan 15 2013, 12:41 PM Post #1 |
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So I am finding myself more and more alone in my offline life in spite of a desire to socialize, I've been getting stressed out over a psychiatric reevaluation ordered by the county that may take 4 hours (I can't do those kinds of things and it's one reason I struggled in school, the outcome could be stressful too), and there's a chance that the guy doing my future planning, relocation planning and planning to obtain a federal disability pension with me could have incurable prostate cancer. If that's the case, no one else on my side is willing to help me become fully independent, and I direly need that. I'm really anxious about when I can get into my new apartment and have heard next to nothing about when I can move in, I have about 2 weeks to finish cleaning up & packing the house, and am having competent help with that, but the people I'm staying with seem weary of me. I was greatly distressed by having to rehome my dog (part of her breed mix was on the breed restriction list at the new place), but she has a great new home with someone who is a close friend who lost his German Shepherd over last summer. I am hoping to get a cat or two at the new place tho, I love cats... All other members can post stuff about their real offline lives on here to keep it out of the Random thread and get it back to its roots. |
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| jedimario | Jan 15 2013, 07:36 PM Post #2 |
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A few new people showed up at a Bible study I've been attending for the past couple of months. It's advertised as a group fro singles between the ages of 18 and 25. Well, three of these new people apparently live together (or at least know each other very well and both moved from TN to the Mooresville area at the same time). Two of them are married to each other- she is 18, he is 20. The other was a rather eclectic 23 year old. To top it off, they were a driving a brand new Odyssey that appeared to be fully loaded with the top-of-the-line motor, not a cheap vehicle. Interesting bunch. |
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| funeralxempire | Jan 15 2013, 07:44 PM Post #3 |
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I'm sorry to hear of all the stressors in your life right now. As much as it's easier said than done, I would try to avoid fretting over the potential outcome of the evaluation or over the health of your planner/worker. Ultimately you can't influence or control those things, worrying won't help the outcome, but it does add to the amount of stress you carry. |
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| GothicCarsUrban | Jan 15 2013, 09:40 PM Post #4 |
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Thanks, FXE. There is still a lot unknown, I'm really hoping I can get more people to know me and like me IRL, and thankfully I can start moving into the new place this weekend. I'm just fearing that everything that was going to happen for me this year won't because of my planner falling ill, and that I'll end up on the streets or back in the group home system, which'll probably be the same one I was court-ordered into in 2008. |
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| GothicCarsUrban | Jan 16 2013, 10:30 AM Post #5 |
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I get to move into my new place starting this weekend, here's my plan for decorating it (tho I have gotten next to no furniture yet) 80s pillow-top black leather couch & chair in the living room, going to put black wood or metal nonupholstered furniture in, someone will be making me non-permanent frameworks for black iron curtain rods and maroon curtains if there are no curtain rods and blinds only (I hate blinds and will keep them down permanently), I'll get all red potholders & towels for the kitchen, red rugs & toilet seat cover for the bathroom, if the stove has coil or plate burners and not a smoothtop, red or maroon burner covers (which I may have to paint myself with high-heat, heavy-duty paint), I will be getting some of my art with corresponding colors put on a memory card and printed at Fred Meyer to get framed, matted & hung, I got a nice clock with an artistic rendering of a Native American woman on it at a thrift store, and I'll be getting red & black-colored area rugs to go on the bamboo laminate floors. (already got myself a Swiffer Sweeper and Swiffer Wet-Jet) Bedroom will have a customization of my existing bed into a twin sofa/bed and painted black with red pillows and a red duvet cover, a black desk, black nightstand & file cabinet and used as a combination bedroom/office, diecasts throughout the apartment. Patio will have an electric grill, table for two and maybe folding Adirondack chairs kept inside and put outside for the summer. |
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| GothicCarsUrban | Jan 17 2013, 03:26 PM Post #6 |
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So today I will spend 30 minutes to an hour on lease paperwork and the like on the new place, getting the power and water turned on there, and will be getting ready to start moving in. |
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| Dragnet_Supporter | Jan 17 2013, 04:28 PM Post #7 |
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Glad to hear the new place is a go Here's what I've learned about stress...and this seems to apply to all moods, good and bad. Once you begin to sink into a funk and think about it a lot, it seems to draw more of the same into your life like a friggin' magnet. Even when we keep it to ourselves. Back when I had my car accident, life became a game of figuring out what to do to survive, what the system wanted from me, which steps to take medically and legally. It seemed like life was spiraling beyond my control. I couldn't really figure out how to get off that merry-go-round after a while. And every time I tried to step off, something else needed to be taken care of and i was thrown right back on again. After a while I felt helpless, then depressed. Most of this was a state of mind, but who wouldn't become depressed when life as you know it suddenly turns into survival through the system. And what I eventually learned is that it life really is a self fulfilling prophecy, set up by emotional and psychological factors. Like energy attracts more of the same kind of situations into your life. And the subconscious mind, which doesn't care about wrong or right, will attempt to create whatever you feed it--even if we are unaware of it, don't want it. It processes information like a computer and attempts to focus life on whatever it is fed habitually. A habit formed in the mind is usually something happening consistently for about 30 days. After that it becomes automatic, like breathing. And BS just seems to fall from the sky. It will seem like bad luck, bad karma, whatever you want to call it. Mostly it goes something like this...you're giving off signals, energy, of whatever has been annoying you. Then you go out and run into a bunch of rude people, or maybe you have an appointment at social services, the doctor, whatever...and that energy just incites (or attracts) the same energy in anyone else not having a good day you encounter. You'll come out of that situation feeling angry, losing faith in humanity, or like your self esteem hit a new low. Not an easy thing to break after it's been around a while. The brain stores up all this stuff and the neural pathways become more well-worn, easier to get to than get away from. It takes a conscious effort to realize these lousy events are mostly the result of chemical reactions and you're not really obliged to accept the negative energy and rotten feelings that are being pumped into your system, or life. This is why so many self-help books have people repeating mantras like: "I'm healthy, loved, and my life is in exactly the right place. It's getting better every day." Because the subconscious doesn't care what it's fed, it just pumps out whatever you feed it in kind. It sounds like there's a part of life you need to deal with that's causing you some limitations. But we all have limitations. We all have certain less than pleasant tasks that need to be taken care of on a regular basis. Consider that part of your day like a job, or a business, that requires a percentage of your time. When it's done, switch gears and think about the things you want to achieve. Even if they seem like pipe dreams, or something huge. Nothing is really impossible, merely difficult. And most of that difficulty is dependent upon how hard we believe a given task to be. And the subconscious responds to that belief, in kind. It may be best to start out with small goals, but think about them often. Visualize them, see yourself doing it, or having whatever it is you want. And mostly, feel happy in those thoughts because the subconscious--that doesn't distinguish right from wrong--doesn't distinguish what you have in reality from what you have in your thoughts. So feel good. Feel like you've already achieve the next step, then next goal. Feed your mind like you're programming a computer for results, because you are. The old analogy of the basketball player seeing the ball going into the basket, feeling sure he is going to score, isn't really any different from anything else we want to achieve in life. We just have to give ourselves time to PRACTICE. And focus on the good things you've already achieved. The new apartment, your creative skills, you impeccable taste for decorating and design. Because as an artist and creative person who has worked professionally, I'm always impressed by your ideas, your photos, you personal taste in what you collect. Let that part of you shine. because whether you are doing it for pay, or pleasure, you are an artist. See yourself as capable. Treat yourself as a skilled person, an individual of certain tastes and worthy of respect. Allow your brain to carve neural pathways to these places. And do it whether you feel like it or not. You'll have days when it feels good, and days when it feels false. But your subconscious will bring about a result regardless. Just keep feeding it. Make it fat on your dreams
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| SLWPAR | Jan 17 2013, 06:28 PM Post #8 |
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I'm working about 55 hours a week at the pharmacy and am car shopping at the moment. So far I've narrowed it down to a new 2013 Camaro or a 2008 Acura TL. The car has to be black and has to have leather. The house remodeling is at a stand still. I'm burned out. |
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| funeralxempire | Jan 17 2013, 07:31 PM Post #9 |
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Edit: I'm not sure what I was saying that about... car shopping I think. I'm currently trying to budget for the year, I'm intending on being out of debt within 10 months. If I have debts, they'll be for a loan so I can buy an Integra, that's what I intend on getting myself for turning 29 in the fall. Edited by funeralxempire, Jan 17 2013, 07:43 PM.
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| GothicCarsUrban | Jan 17 2013, 10:30 PM Post #10 |
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@Dragnet: Great words, to be kept close to my heart. @Joe: Take it easy. @FXE: Wishing you luck getting out of debt. I'm planning on a RWD Corolla, Honda 600, Subaru 360, RWD Celica, Z-car or RX7, possibly a 411SSS, 510 or 610 as a first project if I can't find a Suzuki LJ20, Mk1 Cortina, R100/RX2, Renault R15/R17/Fuego, BMW Neue Klasse or BMW 1602 affordably. I saw the new place today, it is GIGANTIC for a 1-bedroom apartment and is really nice. Got keys to it as well. Will start moving in tomorrow and will probably be living there full-time before everything is moved over. Edited by GothicCarsUrban, Jan 17 2013, 10:30 PM.
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| craftymore | Jan 17 2013, 11:33 PM Post #11 |
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Glad to hear you're moving into a new place Chris. Hope that works out for you. |
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| funeralxempire | Jan 17 2013, 11:46 PM Post #12 |
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A part of me is still holding out for a hachiroku, but I see 20, maybe 30 Integras for every E80, regardless of body style. There's a few others on my list, EF and EG hatches, AE92s, I'd even be happy with an AE82 FX-16 hatch. Of course, if the guy with the Vega gives up on restoring it, I'm dropping the new car fund at his home.
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| GothicCarsUrban | Jan 18 2013, 06:21 AM Post #13 |
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Good list there, FXE. And amid all the havoc, chaos and stress, I created this stunning artwork: ![]() Got a bit of grief from snobs on the deviantART forums about my camera not being a DSLR, using only free and bundled software to edit it, for the red sky and picking a junk car body, a hood and some wheels in an industrial area as a subject (actually a largely empty area in a junkyard specializing in vintage cars) |
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| jedimario | Jan 18 2013, 11:13 AM Post #14 |
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Those two cars seem pretty far apart in genre (and price?) Go for the TL, of course
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| Dragnet_Supporter | Jan 18 2013, 01:55 PM Post #15 |
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DeviantART critiques aside, I think you made some good choices in color and textures here. Sure, we should all be so lucky to have all the proper equipment, but art doesn't begin with any of that. |
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| SLWPAR | Jan 18 2013, 04:55 PM Post #16 |
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Debt? What's that? ![]() Haha, I'm buried in it. |
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| Emptywallet | Jan 18 2013, 05:51 PM Post #17 |
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What an awesome picture GCU,great job man!!!That would look good in any house!!! Oh Im sick as a dog,but got to stay home from work today and sit on my lazy butt.Works good,the kids are crazy,and the wife is
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| GothicCarsUrban | Jan 18 2013, 09:07 PM Post #18 |
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Thanks, everyone, and agreed @Dragnet and @Sam. In the new place with the bare minimum, pizza pockets in the microwave, good music playing (live stream of Portland alternative rock station KINK-FM) and feeling relaxed & at peace for the first time in years. |
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| GothicCarsUrban | Jan 18 2013, 11:40 PM Post #19 |
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Here are pics of the new place as it is now. There are diecasts here, on the card table, in a flat case beside the beanbag chair, on a shelf in the closet and in a hanging case in the closet. None visible easily.![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() It will have actual furniture (I have more than enough room for a queen-size bed, a mini-office and book/diecast storage in the bedroom), cable TV, records, stereo equipment, lots of diecast, etc. as time goes on. |
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| Dragnet_Supporter | Jan 19 2013, 08:52 PM Post #20 |
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Excellent! Clean lines, nice floor. And that corner angle sink is a touch I haven't seen in many apartment. So glad you're feeling the peace...congrats
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| GothicCarsUrban | Jan 19 2013, 09:49 PM Post #21 |
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Thanks! I am obsessive-compulsive about cleaning now (to the point of religiously wiping the sink and appliances), the place is way bigger than the old one (which comprised an old cabin motel unit, an enclosed walkway and a small garage and was in horrid condition), have gotten lots done today. Bought a sofa and chair from a very nice elderly woman in Eugene, brought over lots of stuff, including diecast, and have a whole drawer in the TV stand filled with diorama stuff. My other stereo equipment, a bed and many other things come over soon too. I'll be getting a flat-screen TV, a desk and desk chair, some area rugs, another end table, more lamps, a restaurant-grade narrow table for two, a VCR/DVD player and curtains later, W_Body_Geek might be mailing me some true-crime DVDs (we've talked it over on Facebook), then on Monday I'll be shopping for groceries and cleaning products, and digital cable TV comes on Tuesday. Pics of the place with further upgrading: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() And some (large-scale) diecast in my bedroom: ![]() These are the absolute best times in my life, it seems like. |
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| Hosspower98 | Jan 19 2013, 10:04 PM Post #22 |
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Lookin' cozy! |
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| GothicCarsUrban | Jan 19 2013, 11:10 PM Post #23 |
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Thanks! Especially so in the cold weather here. |
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| Dragnet_Supporter | Jan 20 2013, 12:15 PM Post #24 |
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It's beginning to look like home. I like the sofa and chair...and the woody rug is awesome. Plus when you start setting up your diecast, it always feels more like home. |
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| Emptywallet | Jan 20 2013, 01:33 PM Post #25 |
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Home sweet home,lookin good!!!! |
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